(((((((Pegasus))))))))),

I wish I had the magic answer, I have been dealing with it in therapy because I have to deal with an attorney that is one, and he has made me feel like an idiot too. What you have to realize is that they do this because they "believe" they are more important than anyone else. They need to feel like they have power and they need to be "admired". They do not "see you" or anyone else, they are too "self important" for that, they have "no empathy". But they act like they have it and they can be good at "acting like they have it".

What I can say to you pegasus, and I know you are "very empathetic" and "respect the value of others lives", is you have to learn how "not to let them get to you". If you know what they are, know what "you" are and realize that what you do for others is the "important" part of what you do in your job.

Often what Naricisists feel about "quality empathetic people like you" is they see "weakness". You turn them off because they feel that "your kindness and caring is dumb". I understand "they trigger you". But you also "trigger them". You have the one thing that they are the most afraid of. The problem is, "they don't even know it", because Narcisists do not know they are Narcisists.

Often a Naricisist can take "your kind hugs sometimes" if they can look at it as "adoration of them" but they will not hug you back. And often they don't like to be "hugged" because it makes them "uncomfortable". It is a similar kind of uncomfortable that a victim of abuse struggles with. You can often point them out by the way they "shake hands" because they stiffen up and can have a robotic way of regrouping their movements until they get some "distance".

What you have realize pegasus is what you "do have" that is so "precious" that they just can't get near having.

You have to consider that sometimes they are like this because they were abandoned somehow in their childhood. Or, they were adored and spoiled so much that they never went without and just "expect admoration" and never struggled enough to develope normal human empathy.

So, know pegasus, that you are not an idiot and you are a person with "qualities" that the people that you tend to at the end of their days are truely lucky to have you be there for them when they are frightened alone and nearing the end of life. Whereas, the Narcisist is all business and can easily say "next please".

So if you are in a situation that you have to deal with them, give them their damn admoration and go back to doing what you are best at, being empathetic and kind to those that truely need it.

Does that help?

Open Eyes