My therapist will push to do what she believes is right even if sometimes i dont agree with her (or one of the inside kids) and that is just fine wth us. She mit be trying to work thru something in a certain way, she is the one who is an expert in trauma therapy and DID therapy, not us. We trust that she knows what shes doing. There is however a tone of voice we use when absolutely no means no, and she respects that and will stop but she is welcome to push and push us if she wants to. Its part of our therapy.