Take a deep breath. You are jumping the gun on him having bp and that the town is out to get you. i know this must be very, very upsetting to you, and it's easy to jump to the worst conclusion.... but that's what it is at this point. it is fear and panic and all that good stuff. All you really know right now is that he made a comment in the car and that he has been having problems with this girl. You know that the school could have handled it better and they have a principal who isn't worth their weight in salt... but that is all that is going on.

I haven't been through anything like what you have with your older son. To see the signs in your youngest, your baby, must be enough to drive a person mad. but that may not be the case. He may be repeating what he has heard before. a learned response and nothing more.

Just breathe and try not to jump the gun on this. I doubt that anyone is actually judging you. I'm not there so I can't say for sure, but it's really easy to project these things onto a community and others. I do it all the time.

I guess what I am saying is that it may all be different than what it appears to be. and if that is the case, then just find some firm ground to stand on and let it be different.

I hope that it all clears up soon. I hope that it's just a dumb move on the part of a school and that his comment was just something he learned from his older brother. It is possible, right?