Hmmm. I don't know about that "liking" or "not liking" thing for therapy to work. I think it kind of depends on what you mean by "liking" the t or the t "liking" you. When I think of my therapy relationship, after all these years I'm well aware that there are things about me that aggravate the hell out of my therapist and the feeling is mutual. We have an amazing, tight, powerful bond which we both hold in high honor. But I don't know if that's "like." It's by no means friendship or love, of that I am certain. It's something different.

Sometimes you have to do what you don't feel, definitely.....Actually, a LOT of the time we have to do what we don't feel. Fortunately, feelings sometimes catch up with the doing, but just as often they don't. We just have to "do." That's life, to a degree. But there are times when it's too much and that's okay.

Would you expect someone whose loved one just died to perform their usual, normal tasks? How about someone whose significant other just left? How about someone who just got handed some kind of terrible, lifechanging news? I know I wouldn't expect them to do the regular, normal schedule of events. So I think it's okay to give yourself some slack.

What's not okay is to hurt yourself or mistreat yourself as an expression of your pain.

It's going to take time to get better. This stuff goes very deep and you've had a rough time of it. But you have survived it already, and that is a HUGE accomplishment.