Granite, this is just my opinion but I think a person should finish up with one T before beginning another. I think you should decide whether your current T can help you, whether you are a good fit, etc. and if the answers are no, then make the decision to leave this T. I think that decision should be independent of whether a new T is someone you like, is "better" than the old one, etc. The first T can either help or not, so if not, terminate, and then look for a new T. Don't be stringing old T along hoping you will find a more appealing T as you "try out" new Ts. The 2 decisions just seem like they aren't related to me.

To me, this suggests you have a lot of room for growth yet with the old T. It implies you didn't say to your T before you quit, "hey, it seems like you hate me sometimes" so that you could get the response from T, "no, I don't at all," so you would know you didn't have to quit. Mind reading, making assumptions, etc.--these are poor communication skills. This is something quite concrete you can work on with your T. When you have the communication down, the work will go much more easily. If you have not been using these skills with your T, it makes me think you haven't given therapy with your T a fair chance to work. So I think you can do a lot more yet with your T. Learning to be direct and not assume the worst about someone (that they hate you) would be huge accomplishments! Is there a reason to think these accomplishments would be easier with a new T? Is your current T a poor communicator? Does your current T not leave adequate space for you to express yourself? What is it that you don't like about your T that makes you want to change (not including stuff like "she must hate me")?

Would it be a problem for you to have a gap between the two? When I quit my first T, I was not planning to go to another T. It turned out I did later find a new T, almost by accident, and there was definitely a gap when I was not in therapy. For me, the gap turned out not to be a bad thing!