I gave her the letter. We got everything out on the table so to speak. She was annoyed I had to write letter and couldn't just talk to her. We talked and Im not sure about things. The kid situation is a sore spot for us. When we first got together we didn't want them and I was content with that. A few years ago she changed her mind. She thinks Im selfish for not wanting children. She said she accepted that she will probaly never have them. My instincts are telling me it is not something I am ready for. She says no one is ready.

There is also the issue of romance. Our sex life sucks atm. It is partly to do with my depression. And partly to do with her weight. We both gained about 50 pounds since we got married. I dont find her attractive as I did when we were 19. She is my wife and I still lover her, but I dont desire sex with her as much as I used. She weighs 250 pounds now, and I find it to be a turnoff. I feel bad for it, sex was more enjoyable when I we were both healthier, and I wanted everyday. I don't know what to do. I feel depressed and hopeless.