You are right about my first post. When I was in session one of my little ones was there. She was very upset, emotional and having body memories. She wanted to talk but she wasn't sure she had a voice and wasn't sure what she would sound like. Also I was having some feelings of embarrassment over how she might behave or sound. I believe my concerns stopped her from talking. We have discussed this and I know it is not fair of me to stop her from saying what she needs to. I need to work on that. My t had asked me a few time if she could give her a toy to help her feel better. I said no and I meant no. There is something about toys and playing that is scary and unsafe. I have explained this to my t but I don't think she understands the depth of it. My t, who was very calm and reassuring, ask me if she should push a little harder. I said no, My t explained that there are times when it is better for us if she pushed a little more that she does. This did not think my others would receive this well. So I said no and she listened. After session I started to think about what happened. I couldn't understand why she would push if I said no. Your responses and the others have given me more insight. It helps me to know that this is a therapeutic approach and not just her being impatient.
I am going to bring a blanket in case someone needs comforting. That I am sure I would hold. My t is very respectful of my limits. I just interpreted her insistence as her being impatient and that caused some of the others to become defensive. I need to ask people who have gone through this. Your response and the response of the others has be very helpful to me. I would not have thought of the blanket if it wasn't for these responses. Thank you