Ok, read the whole post. So marriage is a contract endorsed by the goverment. Inagine that you entered into a contract with your wife promising to deliver widgets A, 1000, and widgets B, 1000. Later on you found out that delivering widgets A to her is very difficult. But you did not want to just breach the contract outright. So you decided to make a substitution and delivered widgets B, 2000 ct instead of 1000 ct. But you did not ask her whether she agrees to your substitution. Perhaps she still cares for widgets A. Perhaps she does not need extra widgets B, or perhaps she does not mind them but still want widgets a,as originally promised.

In your case, extra money and home repairs are undoubtedly valuable contributions on your part and you should be commended for making them, but do not assume that they provide an adequate substitution for whatever it is that she expects you to deliver, be it terms of endearment or words of love.