With my xT, I found myself trying to figure out how he wanted me to think, feel, react... and yes I would find myself choosing ways that would result in him giving me praise... and that is why he is my xT. It was not his issues with how he did therapy, but my issues that had to do with me and my interaction with him.

with my current T, i do not have a sense of concern over what she thinks about most of what we discuss.... the focus for me is about me and getting what I need out of therapy ...

so now my T's praise is not a motivating factor... she is like a resource and a sounding board to help me get to where I want to be...