MdngtRain, I completely understand where you're coming from. I grew up pretty much just like you, only in a fundamentalist church in Texas. Everything was fire and brimstone, worthy of death. Everything you did was wrong; even thinking things that might be wrong, was well, wrong! And you were going to hell for it, or going to Heaven to answer to God as to why you did everything while watching a movie of yourself of everything you did! And then you went to hell...

I too have trouble with "faith". I too told a "trusted" clergyperson's wife that we were being abused at home, only to have her go to my mother. My life as a child was even MORE hell because that person betrayed me when I was asking for help.

Believe me - I bet you and I could write a book on what religion has done to us! But I digress...

As for what you said, let's not read into that anymore. You did it, it's on there, and if you want to apologize to that particular person then you should but I would do it via private message. Don't explain much, just tell her you'd had it that night and you're sorry for offending her.