I'm thinking maybe you want him to be more in "tune" to all that you are going through. Like Can't Explain said to be more "empathetic". Sometimes when T is calm and laid back while you're gushing out all these feelings makes you feel kinda like they are sitting back watching a movie rather being a participant. Maybe you want him to feel what you're feeling, to be angry or mad or hurt WITH you. I know for myself I want T to be on my side, to be my support system. Do you feel like that?