I am sometimes confused by other posters' responses to threads regarding "transferance". My understanding is that "transferance" is very very personel. It isn't something that everyone experiences in the same way.

For example, I talked about feeling angry and pissed off when my therapist makes a comment that I interprete as encouraging or praise-worthy regarding my behavior.

Why? It took me a long time to examine my response to her comments. It wasn't about me SEEING or VIEWING my therapist as my parent (mother or father--my therapist is only six year's older than me and she is 7 inches shorter than me--she is NOT my parent by any stretch of the imagination). All of this is what I feel on very gut level. It is the twist or thrust of what my therapist has said as affecting me on a parental level. How do I describe my response? I'm not sure. I know that when I'm feeling something on a parental level it is more visceral. . . more primal. . . more downright gutteral!

If I don't like someone or I don't like what they say or I don't agree with what they say or do, my response is calm, calculated and understandable. I'm able to back up my response. I'm able to slay that person with reason and intellect. BUT when when the response is gutteral and primal, my reaction is unreasonable, undescribable and definitely not calm, cool or collected. It is gut level, undescribable and raw! My response at this level is on a parental level.