My therapist doesn't really praise me and say stuff like "good job." We usually have a different sort of conversation. If told me "good job", though, I don't think it would enrage me. It would probably just be a small moment and then we would move on. Sometimes I share with him when I am pleased about something I have accomplished, and he is usually very willing to share in my joy.

This kind of thing is not really part of my therapy at all. I have so many things to work on in my life that I haven't stopped to consider that I must also try to work on things that T finds positive. I am still trying to work on things that I would find positive. I guess once those are done (probably never), I could move on to what other people consider positive, but for now, I am overwhelmed with what I need to do for me! What I like to think is that my T and I are attuned enough that what I consider important he would too. So if I do well at something and think that, he would naturally think that too, because we are aligned on certain basic values. So I like that he can share my feelings of accomplishment when I have achieved something. If he didn't get why I was happy about something, I would try to explain it to him, but usually he just gets it.

I did not receive praise as a child from my parents so I guess I got used to that and don't expect it (or need it) from T.