Please don't share your feelings to your son. It's terribly hard to love someone that your family does't like. Trust your son to make his own mistakes. Before he gets married have him set up 2 accounts. The primary account has his check deposited and his bills automatically deducted. The second account can be set up to transfer "food/play money" from the primary account.

I ask you to really go out of your way to treat her and love her like a family member. As hard as my husband tries he will never be accepted into my family. This has made me feel like an outsider and avoid family situations. It's a horrible thing because before I was dad's little girl.