Having that last child fly the coop is harder than hell. At first you just kinda wander around the house, lost, not really knowing what to do with yourself; suddenly the house is not only silent, but big and empty too. Eventually you figure out what to do with the time that used to be filled with your child's doings, and much later down the road you finally see that being an "empty-nester" is pretty groovy.

But right now, it feels almost like there's been a death in the family, and it's going to take time to adjust to the absence. Please be kind to yourself, give yourself some time to mourn---because it IS a loss--and let your son contact you when he's ready. He will probably do it sooner if you leave him alone for a bit; he's going through an adjustment period too, and he's too young to know that this isn't all about him, that it affects others as well.

Hang in there, hon. It does get better.