In the last few months of my 4 year therapeutic relationship with my T, he started telling me about negative feelings he was having toward me. Here are some examples . . .

He told me that he felt under a lot of pressure when I emailed him, because he knew I'd be waiting for a response which he couldn't always give soon after he received my emails. (A couple of times I sent an email asking if he had received an email I'd sent as I hadn't received a reply. I can't remember how many days I waited before I sent the second ones, but I didn't expect a reply straight away.)

Several times he told me he felt frustrated with me. (I can't remember the details.)

He misinterpreted an email I sent to him and told me that it "got his back up".

He once told me in an annoyed manner, while he was speaking to me in a particular session that he felt like he was the client, rather than the therapist.

In our last session (which neither of us knew would be my last), he said he felt like he was "crawling his way back up", once again in an annoyed manner, while we were discussing the reply he sent to the email that he misinterpreted.

During this last session he could see that I wasn't feeling very happy and asked me why. When I told him that one of the reasons was because he was obviously angry while talking about the email he misinterpreted, he became angry again and literally threw his hands up in the air.

There were other instances when he had obviously negative reactions to things I said, some to do with him and others not.

Are Ts supposed to tell their clients when they are experiencing these negative feelings toward them? Is there a therapeutic reason for a T to do so? By the time I terminated therapy with him, I felt like I'd been a really "bad" client for making my T feel so negative. It felt like a double whammy as I had become very attached to him.