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Mindinpieces · Feb 03, 2013, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by sorter

No emotion is negative.
You've decided you don't like the emotion.
You can change your mind.
You just need to find a use for it.
Find how it is helping you.

(((Sorter))) Please don't think I am attacking your opinions. However although that may be the case in some circumstances for some people. There can be a point where a person is in no place to be able to contemplate this in such a way. This is because the negativity is so strong and has got to the point of being facts not just thoughts or emotions felt. Which when in a better place they could let go and not let the negativity affect them in such a way. However to me (((Hester91))) sounds as if they are in the place, which I am currently in. Where the negativity is such a strong notion, just being around a person who comes across with negative comments or behaviour. It triggers off the sensations and anxiety and or depression, because things sometimes get to this point and at the present time this is what is happening instead of being able to work through things as you would when able to think better or in a different state to the one you are in.

Your comments are true but first sometimes people have to work on lessening the anxiety or depression first. To then tackle not letting things in their life feeding ( back into their anxiety depression or distress emotional state), so to speak, unintentionally off other people’s negativity. However this is so hard, when you are surrounded by people with their negativity, like I am. which does seep into you at times when things have got too much for yourself in the first place to then have all of their negativity tip you over.

(((Hester91 and Sorter )))

This is another way I can describe it metaphorically

It's like a plant in soil. It's natural for the plant to take in water (natural to feel some negativity for humans) and this can be healthy, within the right amounts but this will be different from plant to plant( from person to person on what is an acceptable amount of negativity they can handle)
However if the plant gets water log by say unintentional rain (negativity that's too much or not something we can help being face with) this can cause the plant to suffer, if it is not prepared to take on so much at once.
Some plants may be able to work through this other plants would not be able to cope and it would affect the plant.
Just like some people are better able to cope and others can't but with some support and ways of tackling this they then can. Then to have left things and hope all may just work out. When actually that's never any good.
In the case of the plant it can be re- potted and left to dry out for bit, new soil can be added. To stop this reoccurring a plant house put to protect it when the weather may be bad with suspected sudden rain to occur again to stop such a thing happening again.

For people we can work on techniques and methods to lessen are problems and to then we are able to work on our thoughts and to put in place support techniques. So to protect ourselves from things beyond are control which impact on us.

There are many ways and means to do this and what works for one many not work for another. Also what may have work for you in the past may not work for yourself in your current situation. However you can in time, which is hard and painful, begin to put in place such support methods and techniques. So the negativity doesn't affect you in such a way. However like I said this is a one step at a time things. It is so painful and you can at times let yourself get consumed by the negativity. This is what is currently happening to me. However doing little things first to bring yourself to a better state of mind and way of feeling and then tackling the negativity and thoughts associate with that and circumstances you are faced with which involves others, is be best way sometimes for some people to work through this then to go straight into challenging thoughts and then negativity they feel first off.

(((Hester91))) I hope you don’t mind my reply and I hope it can be of some help to you. Although I have not gone into certain techniques and methods and just covered how things may be for you which is probably not at all help but you are not alone and I am no expert at these such techniques and methods as I am still trying to master them myself which is a one step forward two back and other times steady steps in right direction. I really do though think you need to look for ways of lessening how this is making you feel and look for ways to better be able to work through the negativity you are faced with for future use, to stop everything getting on top of you and tipping you over which happens far too much for many people. Once you have found a way which works for you, honestly you will wish you knew that sooner and can begin to see that if you had that in the past how it may have help change thinks but you must not judge yourself on your past for not reacting how you could have done once you have gained how to tackle things successful in a future time.
Wishing you all the nest and hang in there with yourself, it is the hardest thing and can be so painful but things never stay the same, each day is a new day.