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Originally Posted by stopdog
I think the one I see does it to try and bond or so I will see her as good and "on my side" or "not the enemy".
(phrases she has used). Grades, prizes, rewards, and even avoidance of most punishment did not motivate me either. Money doesn't, desire to fit in doesn't, the sole objective of making others happy doesn't. Winning doesn't. Losing doesn't. Disapproval doesn't. Need for certain types of knowledge does. Proving I have that knowledge can but not always. Not if there is pressure from outside to prove I have it. Wanting to be competent does.
Perhaps my mother was right. I am difficult to motivate if not naturally inclined.
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Look at this. I.e. what you have written. All that matters to you, all that motivates you, is being right. I can certainly relate to that, but isn't it a win-lose proposition? If one person is right, the other person is wrong? How pleasant does that make us to be around? My mother always wants to win. I can switch sides in an argument, and she will too, just to win the argument. So maybe all your T is doing is trying to get you develop other parts of your personality. So you're more like a strawberry pot with multiple openings, and less like a mint bush taking over the container.