@ Mindinpieces
I'll elaborate on these two lines:
"You just need to find a use for it [the emotion].
Find how it is helping you."

Any strong persistent and long lasting anxiety has been ingrained in your brain.
You've built (whether you meant to or not) well established
neurological patterns of something along the lines of:
feeling -> rejection of the feeling -> pain.
A better pattern is:
feeling -> wonder how that feeling can help you in some way.

This explains what I'm talking about a little more:
http://corecatharsis.com/Blog/blog.html

Please consider the possibility that you're not truly understanding what I just said.
This is different. This is only about accepting your feelings,
not thinking about them or defining them that most therapy is based on.

Strong neurological patterns are created by fully activating your mind. Trauma is an example.
By wondering, using questions, you can fully activate your mind and create
the neurological patterns you want with the same strength as your "negative" feelings.
With activating your full mind, no feeling is too strong.