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Originally Posted by pegasus
Thanks everyone for your insights. 
I'm still not sure how to deal with them. It's very triggering and they make me feel like an idiot, I guess that is what they like to make people feel like. I was hoping someone would come up with a magic formula for dealing with these people. Try and let it go over my head? I don't know. |
Pegs, I don't have a magic soultion, but maybe some ideas....
I believe you and I have similar reactions for similar reasons. My abusers were also narcisstic. Exposure to narcissistic behavior today triggers the old stuff.
Some things that help me...
self-talk - I'm NOT an idiot and neither are you. I'll mentally remind myself that just because someone thinks they are smarter than me, or are actully smarter than me, doesn't mean I'm stupid. You know you are not stupid. Don't give them the power over you by feeling stupid. No one can
make you feel anything.
It also helps me to remember that this narcissist does not have the power to harm me. My abusers were able to cause me physical and emotional pain. Any narcissists I run into in life now do not have that pwoer.
avoidance - I try to minimize my interaction with this people just like I would minimize my interaction with anyone who is toxic to me.
documentation - Like someone else mentioned, if you are dealing with a narcissist at work document, document, document your interactions with them.