SD are you motivated by the urge to become more self sufficient?
With my male T praise seems forced and insincere. With the female T I had, it would have worked great as I have mommy issues, but she was also very negative. Growing up I was not praised unless it was in front of my moms friends, to prove she was a great parent, much like MKAC. My mother actually tried to de-motivate me to do well. i think she always felt I was trying to better myself or be more then what she was and she resented that always. My siblings who received poor grades, had babies in high school and didn't play sports or work were the ones that my mom preferred.