I'm not trying to convince you or anyone else that your T's don't give you valid or invalid negative feedback. I have learned that it's critical to healthy relationships to be willing to consider whether there is something of value in that feedback and be open to change, rather than reflexively put if off on the other person. Which is something I feel that people often do, myself included. But everyone is themselves in the best position to judge whether this is something they do, or not.