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Originally Posted by sorter
@ Mindinpieces
I'll elaborate on these two lines:
"You just need to find a use for it [the emotion].
Find how it is helping you."
Any strong persistent and long lasting anxiety has been ingrained in your brain.
You've built (whether you meant to or not) well established
neurological patterns of something along the lines of:
feeling -> rejection of the feeling -> pain.
A better pattern is:
feeling -> wonder how that feeling can help you in some way.
This explains what I'm talking about a little more:
http://corecatharsis.com/Blog/blog.html
Please consider the possibility that you're not truly understanding what I just said.
This is different. This is only about accepting your feelings,
not thinking about them or defining them that most therapy is based on.
Strong neurological patterns are created by fully activating your mind. Trauma is an example.
By wondering, using questions, you can fully activate your mind and create
the neurological patterns you want with the same strength as your "negative" feelings.
With activating your full mind, no feeling is too strong. |
I understand where you coming from in some respects, but then again I may just be a person that see things differently to you, nothing personal. Actually my post doesn't discount you thoughts at all if you really think about it but like you have pointed out sometimes it becomes
ingrained
indeed reactions can be when you find others negativity leads to you feeling and reacting within ways uncontrollably it's because in some instances you have got to a point where you can't think within the moment and are acting out of an unhelpful ingrained reaction and way of thinking
the whole need to lessen anxiety and depression if ring true for you or even just being upset, distress (a person doesn't need to be consider at such definitions to reaction in such a way) by how a partners negativity is in turn turning your own thought's and feels into negativity ones needs to be address first
it doesn't matter what method or way you use if you can't get yourself into a state of feeling calm and in a place to put to use such helpful use as [QUOTE]
You just need to find a use for it [the emotion].
Find how it is helping you."
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because if you are not tackling things from a calm place it can get distorted even though it would otherwise have worked and been of help.
I have in past though I was doing this but there are right ways and wrong ways it may be that the mediation Hester91 is using isn't right form accessing within thoughts and their mind in the way they wish. The right type of meditation can be used to bring you to a place to calm you down and lessen everything else going on with you personally eg physical sensations, upset etc. to then be able to re- ingrain the methods that can help you to learn how to block other peoples negativity affecting you and learn how you can change how you perceive and take in your partners, friends, colleagues behaviour within another light that is not taking in another’s person thoughts, feeling or emotions as your own or becoming part of your own personal self so to speak.
That’s all I was trying to point out but I don’t want to advise in this way or that way will work for you or help you because I am just another random person but I was just trying to explain my view point and how I see this and that Hester91 may be able to find the help they need by looking back along the same lines as they have but with another style or type or method and using ways to clam yourself down and get rid of some feelings first can be helpful with what ever mental or analogy you use to then better your interactions and way or perceive the world around you from then on.
Maybe I am still confused or coming from not a helpful place I am sorry for that if that’s still the case.