Thanks for all of your replies.

stopdog: "I think it was the therapist's problem and not yours."
With regards to my T saying that he felt like he was the client, I agree with you stopdog.

Syra: "One is where the therapist, with a great deal of understanding, support, and genuine concern for me, and willing to work with whatever response I have, suggested (not asserted as truth) that I might not be seeing something. I was okay with that and it was helpful."

I would be ok with that too, Syra. I'm sorry for everything you've been going through. I hope you're ok.

Anne2.0:" I think that being able to hear negative feedback about yourself and/or how your behavior affects others is an important interpersonal skill. I think it's important because in the course of relationships, honesty and genuineness and openness requires at least a basic ability to tell others how you really feel or how they impact you, as well as allow others to tell you the same."

I agree, Anne. As has been suggested by others, though, it is the manner in which this information is imparted which determines whether it becomes a helpful experience or not.
A T can explain to a client that s/he became angry and why s/he reacted in this manner without displaying that anger to the client. A calm, relaxed demeanour will be more conducive to a healthy, open discussion between T and client than an angry, emotionally laden one will be.

elliemay: "I think, however, that there is nothing in therapy that can't be resolved if both parties are willing to talk about it. Usually that involves each party doing their best to take emotion out of it while simultaneously getting to the emotional heart of it."

I totally agree with you, elliemay.

button30: "She used to give me homework and I would do it but she wouldn't ask me for it next session but one time I didn't do it because she wouldn't ask for it well she did ask and that's when it started. She said I wasn't working hard enough!
She said she didn't work with clients who didn't want to help themselves. I have used and said I had done my homework but she never asked For it, she said this was a lie. And she stopped answering my texts and when I would leave voice mails she would she wouldn't answer. I said to her we are having a communications problem and why didn't you answer my texts she said she didn't have to answer anything. She terminated me after I said therapy wasn't helping me and I feel very suicidal."

I'm sorry that you were so damaged by this relationship, button. To me, being wrongly accused of lying is very difficult to handle.

Dreamy01: "When done well it could potentially be very healing."

I absolutely agree, Dreamy.

Lolacabanna: "I hope you find resolution in this."

Thanks, Lolacabanna.

My kids are cool: "So, sometimes, the negative feedback from a therapist is really to try to help you grow and see your patterns and that they affect your therapy and therapist as they do your real life. Therapy may be a safe place to express things, but by the same token, if the therapist never points out to your how your behavior, actions or words affect other people around you, are they doing you any favors? "

I agree with you, Mkac. My response to your comment is the same as my response to Anne2.0, above.

- "I do not believe that normal rules of interaction are totally suspended in the therapy relationship. Yes, there are different rules, but I do not believe that you can behave badly in therapy and not expect it to affect the therapeutic relationship."

I'm not sure what you're trying to say, here. I wasn't accused of behaving badly by my T or anyone else.

Pfrog: "If he can't handle his frustration any better than this, he needs to take a refresher course before he causes further trauma to clients he's working with."

Thanks for your support, Pfrog.

TheRealFDeal: "It's none of our business what T is feeling."

Thanks for your reply, TRFD and if they do want to tell us about it, they can choose to do it in a calm manner.

artemis within " . . . one time when she was telling me about how t's tend to attract clients that are similar to themselves, I said that must be hard to keep your 'stuff' out of the room. She said, that's why we have our own therapists, so we can keep our 'stuff' out of your 'stuff'. I said still it must be crazy hard. she said, "crazy fun!" "

Thanks artemis within - your comment gave me a laugh!

Bluey