My wife is in a nursing home and won't ever be well enough to go home. She's bi-polar, has traumatic head injuries and a variety of physical problems. I spent at least five years giving her full time care at home and working full time. I eventually lost my job and burned myself out. My relationship with my wife has changed and other than visit her I can't bring myself to do things she wants me to do. The big thing she wants from me is to be brought home for visits. I'm not going to do that. I understand her pain, anguish, sorrow and the rest of it but I can't do it anymore. I don't know what else to add and I'm not expecting anyone to understand or offer advice. I'm just tired and depressed and feeling like my life is never going to get any better.