Wotchermuggle: "My opinion is the same as everyone else's in that it's important to understand how our actions affect others, but therapy should always be about the client, not the therapist."

Thanks for your support, Wotchermuggle.

Syra, I'm glad to hear that you're doing ok. It's great that you've found a new therapist who you can trust. Thank you for your support.

Nightlight: "The first time mine got really angry at me, she wasn't just saying one or two truths that I needed to hear. She was yelling at me, for a solid hour, while I sat there completely shattered, crying in a way that I never cry in front of anyone (no tears left my eyes for the first few years of therapy). My T, my one safe person was really harming me."

This must have been horrible for you, Nightlight. It feels so disappointing, to say the least, when someone we've let our guard down with and trusted reacts to us like this.

"My T has since said she's been too reactive towards me, and she should have taken a one month break from me."

Thank goodness your T has realised this and has admitted it to you. Several times when I brought up something that my T had said in a previous session that had upset me, his response was that he couldn't remember, so the incidents didn't get discussed and worked through.

"T has, at least, finally recognised that I've really fought for the relationship."

This is great for both of you - I hope your T's attitude continues to be positive toward you.

CantExplain: "My T has done all these things.
Sometimes I have been hurt, sometimes not.
Sometimes I have complained, sometimes not.
Right now, it's not a problem.
PS:
Her excuse is that she "has to be real".
PPS:
In spite of all that, I still think my T is great!"

Thanks for your reply, CantExplain. When I look at the "big picture", as in our whole TR over the four years that I was his client, for the most part I still think my T was great, too.

Apart from the really comfortable rapport that we established with each other, he did things for me in his own time that showed how much he cared. Even though I'm still feeling angry and upset with him, I know that he will always be a very significant person to me.

Bluey