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Originally Posted by Brianna84
Thank you for your responses! Telling him my feelings was sort of my first instinct, however, very difficult to do. I feel like he should be the one to approach me with an apology, but I also know you can't expect people to know what you expect of them. I also have no idea how to broach the subject, I have a feeling he will pretend nothing is wrong. What's the best way to tell someone you are hurt and angry because of something they did?
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First, you're not wrong in wanting him to approach you. The problem there is we cannot make anyone do anything or control their actions. You can only control yourself and do what you feel is best. On the expectations thing, perhaps it's time to set up the expectations so he knows that for whatever reason, it bothers you when someone just up and leaves without an explanation after a date or any get together.
The way to approach it? Don't be accusatory. Dont' tell him "you did this... and hurt me" but take it upon yourself and talk about YOUR feelings, taking the spotlight off his offense. In other words you could in your own words basically say "I am hurt because of the way that we parted company the other night." That puts the ball in his court to ask you what you meant. YOu could then tell him "when a person leaves me without explanation after hanging out it makes me feel .... ________ and it hurts."
Dont' use my words, necessarily, but I hope you get the meaning of what I'm saying.
Hope this helps
~S4