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Originally Posted by Brianna84
S4 - thanks for the tips, I think I knew that stuff, but its good to be reminded. Feelings talk is very hard for me, even with those people I'm closest with. But I'm glad everyone agrees I need to talk to him, I just wasn't sure if I should maybe just let the whole relationship, romantic and friendship and all, just die and leave it at that. Also I know some people who regularly leave the bar without a word to anyone and don't see anything wrong with that, so I was wondering if there's a possibility he has no idea he did anything wrong.
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Ok lets say that I say something to you that offends you and in my mind it is not my intention to offend you. Perhaps I am not even aware that I have offended you. Of course you don't assume why I said this thing and now you're confused.
But if you don't come to me and tell me that I have said something that makes you uncomfortable then how will I know that I have offended you? What if it's a subject you don't like? And what if I bring it up again because I can't see that it offends you? If for whatever reason I can't tell then you just sit there angry while I go on with my business. Of course I would be happy to apologize if you had told me. But if you don't say anything then nothing may change at all.
Saying nothing can only leave open misunderstanding.