Is it possible that nothing happened other than some simple affection. I'm not a relationship expert but sometimes things look worse than they are. A few months after me and my wife started dating she was staying over at my house a lot. One day she found a letter from an ex-girlfriend. (Why she was going through my dresser I don't know.) It looked really bad, but I just forgot about the letter. I hadn't seen or spoken to the girl I got the letter from in months. You know your husband better than anybody. I agree with leed about counseling. Communication is very important. All of the problems I've had with my marriage have come from lack of communication. I hope things work out for you.