Thank you for your reply and I apologize if I were to answer sooner, but it is difficult to even get online where I am now (out of the US). Anyway, financial support isnt really necessary as husband makes good money and I don't think she wants child in daycare anyway (unless it is me of course). She has serious student loans and a well paying career (Nurse Practitioner) ahead of her but baby has rather thrown a wrench in the plans. I am not particularly "happily married" and it is difficult to think of my first alliance to my husband and not my child. Both my husband and my health is good, although he has been saying for YEARS that he is not gonna be around much longer! He would never move out of the country to support and be near our daughter...just him..a bit self-centered IMO. (They are here until 2014 and then back to the states but nowhere near where I now live) There really doesn't seem like there is going to be an equitable answer here, I am going to have to choose and it is hard! Ever know anyone in a similar situation and how they chose? Ideally, I should choose what is best for me, but I have isues myself and don't think I really deserve to be happy.