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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
Don't turn this into an emotional fist fight with your mom. She has your opinion, and you have yours. It's your decision.
What you do need to do is prove that you are serious about having a baby if you are indeed pregnant. Even though you never asked for this, you have been turned, practically over night, into an adult. You now have to make adult decisions. I hope you can find someone to talk to there that can be supportive. I think you should seek out your school counselor or nurse. You shouldn't have to go this way alone, and you will need guidance.
You need to start by making plans, long term and short term. What will you do before the baby is born. What will you do after it's born. What will happen to your education. Will you put the baby up for adoption or keep it for yourself? If you're going to put it up for adoption, do all the research yourself. If you're going to keep the baby, then start reading books... on being pregnant, on parenting, everything. You mentioned your father won't help provide at all, except to give you a job. What kind of job will it be, will you be able to watch the baby while you're working or will you have to hire a babysitter. You want to make a budget and start saving money to take care of emergencies, but also plan for the future as well (will you help pay for your child's college education? You should start saving now). I know it's overwhelming, and it's a lot to consider and figure out, but you can do it. Prove to your parents that you are responsible enough to have a child, whether or not it was your choice, whether or not they will be supportive. You are going to be this baby's everything. It is going to need you like you've never been needed before, it's going to expect you to take care of it, and to be as prepared as you can. You're going to need more than just love for this child to get by -- figure out what it is, and make it happen as best as you can. Counteract your mom's statement that the baby is unwanted by proving it is wanted by preparing for it's arrival and acting responsibly.
But, really, you need to get a blood test done to determine if you truly are pregnant. It could be something else, something serious. Or it could be you're so anxious about it and stressed, you're giving yourself symptoms and your mind is playing tricks on you.
Also, please talk to someone. Talk to your school nurse or counselor, because not only do you need support on having this child, but you also need support for your rape. You are still dealing with the trauma of it, and your parents are not helping by putting the blame on you. Please be gentle to yourself when no one else will. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of your baby.
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My father is willing to let me clean is office for some money. It's not a great job. But he always over pays. So it is ideal for now.
I've been researching, and such, about what to do. And I have somewhat of a plan.
I started saving but my mother need grocery money and SAID she would reimburse me. But I'm still waiting.
I'm trying to take care of myself as much as I can. At least until I know a 100% answer. I've stopped all forms of self harm and abuse to myself. Which is difficult. But I'm trying.
If all goes as planned (probably not) then I will keep the baby and it will be well taken care of.
All I can do it pray and prepare.