(((elliemay))) I think the sadness can be in actually hearing ourselves say it out loud. For me it makes it feel more real to hear the words come out of my mouth. It has taken me a while to 'feel' the emotions behind my experiences. When I first told my T about what happened as a child it was difficult to 'share my secret' however I felt detached from what I experienced. I felt more nervous about talking to my T not about what I experienced necessarily.

Now a days (5 years later) to hear those words come out of my mouth feel more profound than ever. I feel a deep sense of sadness and mourning. It feels like to me what I did experience really isn't 'normal' and I have a right to be angry, hurt, sad etc...