"Codependant no more" yes, a good book written by Melody Beattie.

I have been guilty of that myself. Often it can start from when we are young.

168861, I recommend you seek marriage counceling, or find a way to see if a psychologist who does marriage counceling can diagnose your husband. I don't recommend "you" doing that. Sometimes what looks like NP might be some other issue.

Open Eyes