It is rather nice when we occasionally find that, even as weird and strange and maybe damaged as we perceive ourselves to be, sometimes we find there are people out there worse than us . Sometimes those insecurities you mention can be turned into strengths, it may be just a matter of seeing them from a new direction. Bear in mind that every strength and weakness has a shadow side, every good point has a nasty side and vice versa. We just need to learn more about ourselves to know this, but that only comes with experience and life... with making mistakes and learning .