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Old Feb 05, 2013, 07:00 AM
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Originally Posted by watevs View Post
i'll give you an example, when you promise somebody that you'll be friends for ever then you find it hard to keep that promise just because you no longer see in him the person you wanted to be friends with. it is just an example, it didn't happen to me, it is just to explain. but for me i wanted to prove some people wrong,some who questioned my beliefs. then it started to be a burden. i find it hard to let go.
Well people change. i often times hear with "young married couples" this occurs for example. They are in their late teens and are in love, they get married- and by their thirties they have both grown to be different people.
Is it wrong for either one of them to be different and have grown as they have? Who is to say. I don't think so in my opinion.

*Edit is here* I do need to add something though- I don't think it is wrong for people to grow, but I think it really matters on HOW people go about with the departure and how things are handled. I just was thinking of a couple that I know personally that went through the whole "young love and broke up at thirty"; both of them did not handle it well, and one worse that the other. And the way that she is "coping" with it all, i don't think is very healthy for her and she claims to be miserable as well.

And there are of course those stories of young love that lasts- and good for them for being able to have that.

But that is not your real issue though, you mention wanted to prove some people wrong due to they questioned your beliefs ...... that there is vague too....

hmm.... is it that with others questioning your beliefs- you have started to question yourself?

I know a little on how it feels not to be certain of yourself, it does suck-- but ya know, with me-- i sit and I think and I figure out what is really true to my heart.... weather or not others agree. Some times beliefs are something with in that some others can't understand... Some times- even strong beliefs that one may have, can change as time and experiences one goes through in life.

Does it matter what others think or their beliefs? To an extent i suppose. but over all.. it is what i believe; and I will admit as I grow older, i tend to notice some of my beliefs i have had in the past are not so true as they once were.

rambling me-- It is hard to talk/give advice/opinions- with limited discussion of what the topic is.

*but I do wish you well
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Last edited by beauflow; Feb 05, 2013 at 07:10 AM. Reason: I do need to add something..
Thanks for this!
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