how much of the client's expectations, conscious or otherwise, actually affect how the therapist relates to us and how they feel and what goes on in them, without them even being aware of it. You'd have to hope that Ts are on the ball enough to anticipate just such dynamics.

Torn, I know certain schools of therapy put a lot of emphasis on this as a tool to understand the client. I suspect experienced Ts are more comfortable with counter transference in general. I remember my T observing that I had a way of being so silently intense that it could exert a lot of pressure on others. What he was "reading" was my hypervigilence, which didn't display as anxiety, but as a penetrating stillness. This led to opening up more disclosure of my childhood and why I developed that capacity.