and this is why it's so important that survivors of abuse face their abusers... normally once the abuser is behind bars and the victim is safe. it can provide closure... and can be one of the hardest things a victim can do in their life.

But in this case, the abuser has the support of all the family and friends... leaving the victim powerless to face him.

hmmmmmm... i couldn't imagine being in a tougher spot. being a guy... I think i would have it out with him. At least that's what I think would happen. I don't really know the scarring that would leave.

but you don't even have that option. I mean, you could try it, but being a man he prolly could overpower you. hmmmmm... and you already have taken the legal, do not see this person avenue.

so you have done all you can do.. and still the bastard comes around! with the support of the immediate family! Oh geez.... And your not as cold blooded as me as to abandon all of your existing family either. I can see feeling stuck and trapped. You have me though, and all of us on these boards. Not that we can fix it for you, but it's just one more thing the bastard can never take away from you.

Hope it gets better for you, and I hope that the feelings that his visit surely brought vanish quickly with no fallout. Be well, Ophelia.... If I was there I would have punched him for you!