I have a good imagination and a good sense of humor, am honest and getting to know these things and others about myself and how to appreciate them (and commiserate with myself when I have to be honest and it would be easier to do things "quick and dirty" as my stepmother use to call it) just having a good, pleasant self dialogue going with "inside" jokes and all has made a big difference to me.

I can be engaged with myself and share myself with others rather than try to engage others in issues about myself.