hey jeff...it seems like a really tough situation you're in there. maybe you could try something like "taking a break", even just a small one, with your wife-take a short vacation or something. then, when you come back, maybe you will see the whole situation from a different point of view. maybe things will seem better with your wife when you return. or maybe during the whole time away from her you will realize what it's like to be away from your home, and thus you could make a decision... i don't know if what i'm saying is any help, but i'm just trying! take care...