No, I said, to have the feeling that they're hiding something abnormal - CE mentioned he thought his T was living with 2 lovers - that resonated with ME, and in retrospect, says more about my actual situation than any of my T's. That I had these suspicions about them corresponds to what I felt my family was hiding from me. I was pretty open about that, I think, but I can see how it would make it easier for T's to pick out than a random comment from me.

You know, random comment - I feel like everyone in my family knows something I don't. t: what are you, paranoId? Compared to: T: what do you think my marital status is? (I know this answer will tell me something about what is bothering the client.) Client: I think you secretly live with 2 lovers. T: oh, someone important is keeping secrets from you?

Well, if only it were that simple! But that's what I was trying to say. In retrospect, I can see a specific reason for this specific question, because it would have worked with me, theoretically. Too bad I'm not a theory!!