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Originally Posted by Buttercup..
I really wasn't sure where to post this but I really need advice on this as this is stressing me out.
I started with a new therapist Thursday and she was asking about my childhood (not abuse) My mind is just blank I told her this I really can't remember just the abuse and my parents fighting and arguing most days,
She then said is to write down what I remember (good stuff) over the next week and to bring back to therapy on the 11th Feb. How can I do this if I don't remember? She wants a clear picture of what my childhood was like.
I have only been with one therapist and we done CBT so this is all new to me.
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maybe she was going on how you worded what you told her...if you told her the same statement you posted here..."I really can't remember just the abuse and my parents fighting and arguing most days,"
that tells a therapist you do remember abuse and parents fighting but its mixed up with good memories.
so the result of saying this statement to a therapist is ok dont worry about separating abuse from good memories, just write everything down and bring it on in at the next session.
I have a suggestion that worked for me when I didnt have any memories good or bad... my therapist had me sit down with a kitchen timer set at 5 minutes and write on a piece of paper the phrase I dont remember anything, all I can remember is...." that took the pressure off of the expectation of writing what was expected of me. I think I wrote that phrase over about 10-15 times and suddenly instead of starting the phrase over when I reached the word "is" a very small good memory got wrote on the paper.
maybe you can try this and see where it leads you. think of a generic phrase about not being able to remember anything and then write it over and over again until either a memory gets accidentally wrote down or the timer goes off.