Would she be open to discussing this and doing something, an agreement of some sort, or would that just put the ball in motion for her to know that you are thinking about that and she would want to get in the way of what is best for the kids ASAP.

In the next 6 or 8 I forget which you said the divorce will be final. Will that come up in court then. They have been w/ you all along and are thriving correct. No trouble in school, good grades, or at least grades in school equilivent not dropping from what they were. The only thing that concerns me is living in a hotel. That doesn't sound like the best option for kids. A house or appartment. But is is better then living from home to home w/ mom and a strange man. That is my only concern for how a jucge might see things. Keep us updated. I think you mean well and the kids should be w/ you from the things you have said.