My husband of 9 years is driving me crazy. I am usually an upbeat positive person. He is depressed a lot and won't get help. He also has major communications problems/ problems forgiving the hurt that others have caused him in his life . I'm talking about hurts from his childhood, his adult years, his two marriages before me. We have a blended family ( I had two children before this marriage and he had one) and we have one child together. When he gets angry, he is unreasonable. I try to stay calm and he is childish, calling me and my other son names, throwing things, cursing at me, blaming me for things that are not my fault. If I try to defend myself he turns on me saying I am "out of control". He constantly tells me that feelings don't matter. That my feelings don't "make things real." He never apologizes for saying the hurtful things he does. He won't go to counseling. I've been in counseling to deal with the breakup of my first marriage and have been able to forgive my first husband and move on. I guess I'm not looking for any help, just a sympathetic ear. I feel trapped because I won't put my young son through a divorce, and I'm not prepared to give him up ANY. I do not want to leave him with his dad alone, because I don't trust his parenting skills. He raised his first son almost alone, and that turned out disastrous.. they have a very negative relationship (and he still lives with us, adding to the problems.)

I'm usually a very happy and content person and I just keep thinking, I made this decision to marry him, and now I am going to stay because of my son. I'll just deal with this man the best way I can, take the good parts, and try not to get emotional about the bad parts, and pretty much just ignore the fact that he tries to drag me down.