This makes me SO angry. I'm so sorry. I'm glad you have some IRL support, but as you say, no one really gets it like those who are really invested in therapy.

Does this guy have a supervisor to whom you can report him? His treatment of you has been really unacceptable. His inability to conduct himself in a professional manner is pretty serious. I can't imagine being terminated as a client because of something another client said. At the very least, I hope you can put an online review or a yelp review out there. Imagine someone with your background becoming the target of this woman's envy, BEFORE going through all the growth you'd already undergone. Unbelievable.

Hang in there, and please remember that you're not going to be turned away here. . It would be great if you could find another T to help you through this. It won't be the same intense connection or a substitute of any kind, but it's nice to have someone really dedicated to this aspect of your life while you're dealing with it.