It's funny you should mention that, feralkittymom. I apologized to my T once for having made him anxious or uncomfortable the session before. He asked what made me think that he was anxious. I had to sit there for a second and think about it and then said it had to do with how tight his muscles were, the way he was kind of clenching his pen, and the fact that his breathing became more rapid and a little more shallow. He kind of smiled and acknowledged that all of those things had probably happened, but he had not noticed at all. He agreed he was at least a little uncomfortable, but it was just a hard subject we were discussing and I shouldn't feel badly about discussing it with him. He also commented on people with an abusive background are just better at picking up the moods of others, but not always great about interpreting exactly what they are seeing.