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Originally Posted by stopdog
I know you are not saying I have no reason to whine. I am saying I know I do not. I don't even think I could call what I have as suffering. That sounds too over the top for me. Sometimes, when particularly self indulgent, I consider it to be discomfort I would rather not have.
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hm...
a T (not my current one) once heard a thumbnail sketch of my history and said,
SAWE you have had a very difficult life. It wouldn't be surprising if you were asking, 'why me?'
I told him, "it's not so much 'why me?', as 'who me??' "
For one thing I never thought of it as a
difficult life; just MY life. Not great, but it was mine, wasn't everyone's kinda the same?
and also, I absolutely would not permit myself to have had a difficult life. That would imply that I was weak & had been taken advantage of; it would imply loss, maybe tremendous loss, and I had no idea how to handle that.
SD I wonder if you and I are just a little bit alike, now and then.
PS we are now 3 yrs down the road in therapy from that conversation with that T, and the realization is sinking in. This IS my life. Not everyone's was like that, not at ALL. And yes I was taken advantage of; and yes I did suffer tremendous loss; and the mountain of grief that I see on the horizon, which it seems I may have to scale, is terrifying.