Sometimes after the big "O" the sensations are to much to uncomfortable and females don't want to be missed with. Things can get mighty sensitive afterwards. All I can think of is working to achieve better timing. Though that is quite difficult.

This issue seems to be the opposite for me, it's the other way around. He finishes first and I think "what, more please, NOW." or when it is time, it's time and stop, don't go back there, give things a break and then proceed as needed.

After she gets hers can you hold out long enough to allow her time to settle down and let sensations diminish then finish.

Hope that explains things somewhat. With out saying inappropriate words or phrases that is all I could come up w/.