I am 18 years old, been out of high school for two years (early graduate) and I am in quite the precarious situation.
I have been with my boyfriend sense I was 16, my mother introduced us and things were going amazing, until recently. I had started staying with my boyfriend my first year of college (he lives closer to campus) but I left most of my things at my mother's home. She was fine with the arrangement (and actually suggested it in the first place) until this year. Less than a month after I turned eighteen, she asked me to babysit, my siblings are 12 and 9, and I was a bit peeved to have to babysit on a night where I had so much homework. I relented, and I was texting my boyfriend lamenting my pile of homework and talking about how it would be hours before I made it to bed. He asked me "isn't your sister old enough to babysit?" and I agreed, still grumpy about all I had ahead. When it became evident that she would not be back for a LONG time he came to bring me my coursework so I could at least start. Well he and I fell asleep on the living room floor, my mom got home around 1 AM, apparently I had left my phone in the kitchen and she read through my text messages and decided his comment about my sister being old enough to babysit was disrespectful. We got up to leave and at this point my boyfriend and I were both grumpy. He had work the next day at 7, and I had class. He sleepily shuffles out to his truck and I go to say goodbye to my mom and she says "don't even touch me, just go" so I grab my phone and leave. Fast forward to morning. She calls me SCREAMING about what a disrespectful ungrateful little ***** I am and I'd better drive back home so she can beat my ***. I politely tell her No, I will not be treated like this and hang up the phone. After a day of this, she sends her best friend to "come find me" because I'm "missing". He knew where I was and when he showed up to my boyfriends house I could not stop the tears. I told him how I felt neither my boyfriend or myself did anything wrong and how I felt I could never live up to her expectations etc. He agreed with me my mother was being highly irrational and left to tell her I was not "missing". I finally went back to her house a day later and she pretended everything was fine.

Now I find out we have lost our house, and seeing how she's a single mother of three, I can see how that is stressful. So my boyfriend (in an act of kindness) helped me get a vehicle so we no longer had to share. My mother is incredibly upset about this, even though she refused to help me get a vehicle, and is demanding it is put in her name and on her insurance, neither he nor I think this is a good idea. Within the last week she has accused me of having been "brainwashed" by him and saying "he's just trying to put a wedge between us" she is convinced my boyfriend is physically abusive to me behind closed doors, which is absolutely absurd. He rarely raises his voice more less gets angry. She is also convinced he has an alcohol problem, which I cannot see considering he only drinks on weekends and it's nothing stronger than beer (he's 21 and legally able to drink might I add) and I have NEVER seen him have more than two. She believes he will cheat on me if we ever get married. Lately she has also accused me of using cocaine (which shocked me because I have never ever been the drug type of person)

Personally, I believe she is trying to project the problems that her relationship with my father had on my current relationship. My father was abusive, drank, used hard drugs, and cheated on her with multiple women. I have tried to talk to her about things but she cuts me off and continually talks down to me. I am not aloud to talk about my boyfriend, he can't drop things off to me at home, and I'm not aloud at his house.I asked her if she wanted me to break up with him and she said "no because then you'll hate me and I'll lose my little girl, From what I see I've lost you already" I'm ready to take what things I have, pack them in my vehicle and move in with my boyfriend. I am so exasperated. I would appreciate any opinions on how I can make things work. I have been walking on eggshells these last few days and I cannot take it anymore.