OK there are 2 moms on Kathie Lee and Hoda's hour of the Today show this morning, and their sons are/were in the military.
I should be glad my son isn't in the military and in danger.
I should be glad my son is alive.
I should be glad my son is healthy.
I should be glad my son feels confident in his ability to live on his own and pay his own bills.
But I'm selfish because I wasn't ready for him to move out.
I'm selfish because I wanted him to get back into college and be closer to finished (or finished) because I know it's difficult to finish college once you have real-world responsibilities.
I'm selfish because I don't get to see him every day.
I'm selfish because I no longer go to sleep feeling the comfort of knowing he is asleep across the hall.
I am selfish because I no longer look forward to someone coming home at some point during the day, to break up the monotony of the day.
I am selfish because I no longer have someone to eat dinner with.
I am selfish because I no longer have someone to chat with about their day, my day, current events, etc.
I'm selfish because I wonder if this is what the rest of my life will be like. Will I no longer know what's going on in his life? Will he get so used to me NOT being part of his life that I won't get to know his future wife and kids? Or feel comfortable when visiting his current apartment or future home? Or see him for holidays? Or see him at all?
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- Purple Daisy -
Bipolar II * Rapid-Cycling
46. Female. Midwest USA. Just returned to treatment in July 2012 after being out of treatment since 1994. First diagnosed at age 21.
Writer stuck in a cubicle by day.
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