I used to struggle with people walking all over me too -- especially family members. But I finally decided I'd had enough. I wasn't going to allow it anymore.

You're just as good as anyone else -- and what you have to say is just as important as anyone else!! If YOU FEEL that what you have to say is not as important, those are YOUR feelings, not anyone else's. You have to change the way you feel about yourself. Other people don't feel that way.

I had trouble with family members needing me to help them with money issues. I finally was just honest with them and told them I couldn't afford it. Previously, I'd give them the money anyway - taking it out of my savings and giving it to them, when I really didn't want to deplete my savings. I won't do that anymore. They just don't get it. Simple as that. It would have to be a matter of life and death before I'd do that again. The same goes for taking them someplace. I'm disabled, and driving any length of time is difficult for me, so I won't do that either. If they get mad, so what? They'll get over it. And if they don't, oh well.

You don't have to be walked on, unless you allow it. Like the saying goes -- You can't be a doormat unless you lay down. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee